Home is Wherever I’m With You

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Over the past year we have been toying with the idea of selling our current house and moving into something a bit bigger. Something that would offer us space for guests, room for the kids to play both in and out and possibly somewhere we could stay for the next 20+ years. We were also pretty confident that I would not be going back to work so we wanted to make sure we would be making a decision that would benefit us financially as well. In July everything seemed to click into place and within two weeks we went from going to the bank to cleaning our place and listing it on the market. 

The whole process hasn’t been an easy one and I think anyone that has bought and sold can agree with us on this. From cleaning your house to make it show worthy to trying to keep it that way with kids and pets, is just insane. And trust me I am amazed at how many people don’t make their house look it’s best when they are trying to sell it. It doesn’t help that the market here in BC is crazy right now. It’s been on a steady incline of rising prices and fast sales for the last year and in some areas it seems as though its peaked and is ready to crash but in others it seems like its still going strong. We’ve seen multiple friends get discouraged by this, after putting bid, after bid on houses, only to lose out as they are going a hundred thousand over asking. It really makes it tough as you really need to nail down what exactly is important to you in your search and what you are prepared to sacrifice to get it. 

When we first set out our search for “the perfect family home” we had a certain area and a few subdivisions in mind. But as we’ve looked and visited open houses the last few months its quickly become apparent that what we thought was going to be the ideal spot really isn’t anymore. Very quickly  we’ve become out priced in that area and what is available is not very desirable. To some this might get them down and have them giving up their hopes of moving and just make due but for us this isn’t the issue. We know the perfect place for us is out there and we are still searching and even if we have to switch up our direction, we know we will find it.

Were we are struggling is the opinions and thoughts of our family and friends. Some of them get it, they understand that we are just trying to do whats best for our family. Just as we decided that me staying home was best, us moving is best. We are trying to put ourselves in spot that will allow us to live our lives. Give us the freedom to go on family vacations, more camping trips, splurge on dinners out, retire early, send the kids to school. Others do not. Instead they are filling our heads with nonsense such as

“you’re moving so far away”

“Why would you move there?”

“It’s a horrible place to raise kids.”

“We’ll never see you anymore.”

“You’re taking the kids away from us.”

“The air quality is terrible.” 

I could go on and on with the things we’ve heard. Did I mention that we are only looking at possibly moving half an hour to possibly an hour away? We are not talking ferry rides or plane rides. There is no crossing boarders or leaving the country. Simply a little further down the highway from where we are right now. We’ve even brought it up to some of them that they are being selfish with their thoughts and that they should want whats best for us and respect our wishes. To which we’ve been told that they have a right to be selfish. What they don’t realize is how much it hurts us and how judged we feel for simply trying to put our family in a better spot. 

At the end of the day the only thing that matters is our little family and all we can ask is that people just love and respect us, no matter where we end up. 

Home is Wherever I’m With You

Xo. Andria

14 thoughts on “Home is Wherever I’m With You

  • August 30, 2016 at 6:45 am
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    We moved further out so I could stay home with my 18 month old son full time. We sold our place in New West in a weekend – and hit the sticks… Chilliwack! It seemed so far away from the home I was used to. Plus my family. We have been out here for just over 2 month now & loving it. It was the right choice for us to move away for more nearly double the space, a cheaper mortgage & a great family friendly neighbourhood. I would love to still be 20 minutes away from grandparents but we are under an hour drive, we can still have weekly visits!
    Hope you find the perfect home too. 🙂

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    • August 30, 2016 at 7:34 am
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      It sounds like we are in the same situation as you guys! We are currently looking your way too. Where abouts in Chilliwack did you end up? We just started looking that way this weekend.

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      • August 30, 2016 at 1:56 pm
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        We are on the Sardis side, close to the Garrison Crossing area! We live a couple minutes from the Rotary Trail, which is great for family bike rides & walks. I’ve found everyone so friendly out here & I’m excited for my family to grow up here!

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  • August 30, 2016 at 7:12 am
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    Good luck in your home search. Only you and Your husband know what’s best for your family. The older I get, the more I realize that the best advice is the advice given only when asked. A listening ear is the best support a family member or friend can give. – your current neighbour from an also wonderful neighbourhood

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    • August 30, 2016 at 7:36 am
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      Thanks for your sweet words Kelly! I only wish others understood that. At this point we just need them to be there for us, not make our decision more difficult, but ce la vie I guess! And yes our current neighbourhood is wonderful, just time for more space 🙂

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  • August 30, 2016 at 8:25 am
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    You totally have to do what’s best for your family. Last year we moved from Surrey to the Sunshine Coast. Best decision we’ve ever made. We got acreage and a big house for almost the same price as our tiny house there. Plus the school that my daughter will go to is the top public school in BC. Yes, we took our daughter away from all the family, but now she’s going to grow up in an amazing place!

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    • August 30, 2016 at 11:29 am
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      Oh that’s great to hear and the Sunshine Coast is such a beautiful place! I would be visiting you every chance I got if I were your family!

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  • August 30, 2016 at 9:17 am
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    We received much of the same attitude from family when we moved from Surrey to Abbotsford last Summer. I am so glad we moved out here. I love the area and the feel of community.

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    • August 30, 2016 at 11:27 am
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      Isn’t it funny how people make such a big deal about it? It’s really not that far!

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  • August 30, 2016 at 10:14 am
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    Have all the comment-makers talk to my mom and she will make them aware of how lucky they are, even if you move just an hour away. With having her kids in Chicago, Calgary, and Washington, she knows a thing or two about keeping up with those long distances. You are smart to do what’s best for your family and not worry about what they have to say. They will understand eventually!

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    • August 30, 2016 at 11:28 am
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      Yes! Your pour mama! I can’t even imagine how she feels. Thankfully your much closer now (and not allowed to leave!)

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  • September 1, 2016 at 9:28 pm
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    Lol my parents (who live in Surrey) initially thought Langley was too far! But they’ll drive to visit their friends that live in Abbotsford! It’s fine now and I totally get what you’re saying about people criticizing you on the move, but you do what’s best for your circle. I love the idea of moving out in that direction but it just doesn’t work for us. Best wishes on finding the right forever home for you!

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