Balance

  
They say the days are long but the years are short and it is oh so true. I am just about 6 months into this life as a mom of two and I still don’t quite have my grasp around it. On some days I think I’ve got it and others come no where close. It leaves me wondering, will I ever have it or do I just throw my mascara on, sweep the Cheerios under the couch and just roll with it?

  
Between dealing with the emotional roller coaster that is a two year old, a sleepless baby that depends on me for nourishment, a house that doesn’t clean itself, quite often the two things that need the most attention get left out. Myself and my husband.

 The kids are my world and their needs throughout the day are the outmost important. I wouldn’t change a thing about the time we spend playing and creating, except the odd nap or two would be nice.

  
 I guess the real struggle comes down to the house work and me time. No I don’t want an all White House that’s sparkling clean all the time. I want a house that’s warm and lived in. One were you might trip over the odd Princess Sofia slipper or find the odd toy on your bathroom counter. 

I need to figure out a balance to this juggling act and I need to figure it out quick. With March upon us we are headed full steam into Evans busy time at work. This means countless days were he’s out of the by 5:30am and not home until 8pm or later. It makes for some really long and tough days, but it is what it is. 

  

I need to know your secrets friends, how do you do it? Or how do you pretend to do it? How do you keep the laundry off the floor, the toilets clean and the bellies full? And most importantly where do you squeeze in time for yourself and how do you make it a priority?

  
Xo. Andria 

16 thoughts on “Balance

  • March 4, 2016 at 9:36 am
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    Preschool – my big boy is out of the house 3 days a week for 3 hours each day. He loves it and is learning a lot.
    Grandparents – they take either kid every now and again so I can recharge.
    Sleep training – I just sleep trained my 7 month old. Not something I did with my older son but definitely saved my sanity.
    Netflix/movies – it’s not the worst thing in the world to let the TV babysit from time to time! I don’t mean everyday, but when I really need to do something and the big kid is being needy, hello Paw Patrol.
    Also, as much as I hate to admit it – my kids need NEW stimulation from time to time. Meaning(the dreaded) new toys. It helps keep their minds and hands occupied.

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  • March 4, 2016 at 9:58 am
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    Balance, what’s that? πŸ™‚

    No, really, it’s tough. I work, but it’s so exhausting to come home and feel guilty if I don’t give 100% attention to my kids.

    I like the idea of new toys every once in a while.

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  • March 4, 2016 at 11:12 am
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    This is really hard, but honestly, I made a list of the MAIN things that I HAD to do (Cook meals, do dishes, laundry), Then things that need done, but not daily (mopping, and washing windows) then I made a cleaning “schedule” which (while it is still a complete work in progress) I am trying to stick to where I only clean about 1 hour a day total. It’s taken some trial and error, but you find what works, and you roll with it *hugs*

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  • March 4, 2016 at 1:45 pm
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    I love your blog and wshat a sweet daughter good luck with your blog

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  • March 4, 2016 at 2:16 pm
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    You’re doing a great job!! I love your perspective on having a lived in homey house and follow true to that myself. Lately I’ve been scheduling time alone which has been awesome!! And honestly life changing. We do what we can where we’re at!!

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  • March 4, 2016 at 2:50 pm
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    Awwww….yes. I was in that situation almost two years ago and I’m sorry to say that it has always been a juggle for me. Some days I totally should win mom of the year and other days I feel like they should commit me. It’s so worth it though and I’m pretty sure my kids memories will not be made up of the crazy days πŸ™‚ You are doing a great job mama!

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  • March 4, 2016 at 3:01 pm
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    Just had my second and I’m already feeling so many of these things. Right there with ya mommy! Let me know when you discover the secret to doing it all πŸ˜‰

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  • March 4, 2016 at 3:48 pm
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    Your family is beautiful! My advice is keep it simple – simple meals, simple outings, simple organization. And take advantage of any help you can get! I did a babysitting swap with a friend when my kids were that young. One week she’d keep our kids, and the next week I’d keep them. This gave my kids a little play date and a break for me! Every little bit helps!

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  • March 4, 2016 at 7:36 pm
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    It’s hard. Don’t hesitate to ask for help, if needed get someone to watch the kids for a day before the busy season starts so you can get the house all in order. Then figure out a simple schedule where you rotate through areas. Maybe you clean early in the morning, or late at night. If you can, getting someone else to do the deep cleaning is a saving grace. Definitely find time for you too , as I’ve been reminded several times “you cannot pour from an empty cup”.

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  • March 4, 2016 at 11:54 pm
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    Your kids are adorable! It is tough work and often exhausting. I created a cleaning schedule. Some were priorities like feeding everyone but others I wouldonly get to on days I had time! πŸ™‚

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  • March 5, 2016 at 10:23 am
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    I give mamas so much credit because I always say- I can’t even keep up with my own laundry, plus trying to have a social life, while working full time, exercising, etc… so I wonder how moms do it! Looks like you are doing wonderfully. I mean you have a great blog while being a full time mama-that goes to saying a lot! And if you enjoy blogging, that can be some self care/relaxing time for you right there πŸ™‚

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  • March 5, 2016 at 5:20 pm
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    I think the key is not “doing it all” It’s doing what needs doing in the moment and then dealing with the next thing next. One thing at a time. Baby steps. That’s survival in parenthood πŸ™‚

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  • March 5, 2016 at 5:35 pm
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    There is no doubt about it – motherhood is tough! But when the kids go to bed, try to make time for you. That’s important, too.

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  • March 6, 2016 at 6:23 pm
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    Awwww what a cutie!!!! Motherhood really is tough though. Whenever you think you have it down I swear life throws you another curve ball

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  • March 6, 2016 at 10:32 pm
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    Honestly? I barely manage. With no family in town, it’s on me to handle all of it. My oldest has preschool twice a week, but that only buys me maybe 3.5 hours a week after factoring in the time to drive there and back. I usually end up scheduling classes/activities for me and my youngest (8 months) during that time.

    Me time is a thing firmly in my past right now, and I guess I’m just accepting it and moving on. Maybe one day I’ll have the time to do something for myself (other than take a shower and remember to eat).

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  • March 7, 2016 at 1:11 am
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    Great post! The days are long and the years are short–one of the truest sayings, I think. It’s always difficult to find a balance, but an rule I started living by that helped a lot was “If you can do it in a minute or less, do it right then.”

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