Over the past year we have been toying with the idea of selling our current house and moving into something a bit bigger. Something that would offer us space for guests, room for the kids to play both in and out and possibly somewhere we could stay for the next 20+ years. We were also pretty confident that I would not be going back to work so we wanted to make sure we would be making a decision that would benefit us financially as well. In July everything seemed to click into place and within two weeks we went from going to the bank to cleaning our place and listing it on the market.
The whole process hasn’t been an easy one and I think anyone that has bought and sold can agree with us on this. From cleaning your house to make it show worthy to trying to keep it that way with kids and pets, is just insane. And trust me I am amazed at how many people don’t make their house look it’s best when they are trying to sell it. It doesn’t help that the market here in BC is crazy right now. It’s been on a steady incline of rising prices and fast sales for the last year and in some areas it seems as though its peaked and is ready to crash but in others it seems like its still going strong. We’ve seen multiple friends get discouraged by this, after putting bid, after bid on houses, only to lose out as they are going a hundred thousand over asking. It really makes it tough as you really need to nail down what exactly is important to you in your search and what you are prepared to sacrifice to get it.
When we first set out our search for “the perfect family home” we had a certain area and a few subdivisions in mind. But as we’ve looked and visited open houses the last few months its quickly become apparent that what we thought was going to be the ideal spot really isn’t anymore. Very quickly we’ve become out priced in that area and what is available is not very desirable. To some this might get them down and have them giving up their hopes of moving and just make due but for us this isn’t the issue. We know the perfect place for us is out there and we are still searching and even if we have to switch up our direction, we know we will find it.
Were we are struggling is the opinions and thoughts of our family and friends. Some of them get it, they understand that we are just trying to do whats best for our family. Just as we decided that me staying home was best, us moving is best. We are trying to put ourselves in spot that will allow us to live our lives. Give us the freedom to go on family vacations, more camping trips, splurge on dinners out, retire early, send the kids to school. Others do not. Instead they are filling our heads with nonsense such as
“you’re moving so far away”
“Why would you move there?”
“It’s a horrible place to raise kids.”
“We’ll never see you anymore.”
“You’re taking the kids away from us.”
“The air quality is terrible.”
I could go on and on with the things we’ve heard. Did I mention that we are only looking at possibly moving half an hour to possibly an hour away? We are not talking ferry rides or plane rides. There is no crossing boarders or leaving the country. Simply a little further down the highway from where we are right now. We’ve even brought it up to some of them that they are being selfish with their thoughts and that they should want whats best for us and respect our wishes. To which we’ve been told that they have a right to be selfish. What they don’t realize is how much it hurts us and how judged we feel for simply trying to put our family in a better spot.
At the end of the day the only thing that matters is our little family and all we can ask is that people just love and respect us, no matter where we end up.
Home is Wherever I’m With You